Friendship

I've been thinking about friendship a lot lately. Friendships change over time. When my children were younger, most of my friends were moms who had kids in the same age group as my children. When I was heavily involved in a homeschool organization, most of my friends were homeschoolers. Now that my children's ages span college senior down to a 5 year old, I no longer fit any particular group.

Lately, I've been surprised by some friends that I have had for 14+ years. Our children are still involved in various activities together and I still considered them friends. Unfortunately their behavior has shown that they no longer consider me a friend or value our friendship. The women and their children have purposely excluded me and my children from participating in the activities in one group where we all are members. We have been cut off from communications that we should have received. I feel like I'm now on the outside of a junior high clique. (I just know that I have the wrong clothes and hair style.) I'm saddened that I so obviously misunderstood their feelings.

On the other hand, some women who I only got to know in the last year have made huge efforts to include my children within the same organization. They have offered rides, emailed information, and made sure that my children were included in as many opportunities as possible. These women have a wonderful sense of fun and kindness. Their conversation is uplifting and inspires me. These woman have offered their friendship in welcome ways and I enjoy the time we spend together.

My two closest friends from our old city have remained good company. They love me for who I am and accept all my flaws. When I call to cancel a get-together, I know that they understand and will not hold it against me. They inspire me to take better care of myself and to be grateful for small improvements. We share our troubles and concerns.

Many people from the church we have been visiting have been friendly and welcoming. My children were invited to a sledding party this weekend with the church youth group. I haven't observed any cliques. I'm looking forward to getting to know more people in the area and making new friends.